Chance to grow

Life changes so quickly. feeling grateful to be around such wonderful people to strengthen and grow with.”  – Riley Keough

Growth is inevitable for any human being. Be it physical growth or psychic growth. The development of everyone derived from personal experiences that shape and build the personality.

The relationship that exists between the individual and the social environment are reflected in emotions, thoughts and attitudes under a single private perceptive look.

I am writing about this subject because for some time I was surprised by a feeling of stagnation. And it was impossible not to compare myself to who I used to be in the past. Plenty of engagements. Many values, whether physical or analytical priorities have now become just a flash of a second.

For a while, I was tired of thinking, tired of watching and listening.  I thought that I had already grasped everything that life could offer me in growth. I thought that new challenges were just like running another marathon and just another prize, it wouldn’t mean anything new.

And worse, after a while, it would be of no use to me. So, I stopped.

Unfortunately, it took me a long time to wake up and realize that I still had a lot to understand, I woke up and saw that the natural evolution of everyone around me continued to grow and what I knew and thought I know, today is no longer the truth.

I freaked out! How could I have been blind? Not to see that everything and everyone continued to grow and develop. Improving themselves.

Parallel to this, I still feel the fear that I will never be able to reconnect even with friends and family, that my ability to learn and keep new things has rusted.

I went to see a doctor to find out if this was a serious disease if it could be signs of Alzheimer’s or something else. But in fact, it was just a reflection of stress, a preliminary stage of depression. This only started to happen during the period that I had decided to stop. Procrastination.

I need to do something about it.

I woke up from my dream, that was the first step. The second step was to start listening more of everything and everyone around me, and much of the things said, I couldn’t understand. I was hit by the lost time. What are they talking about?

Socially speaking, during catch-ups, I am no longer heard, I have become obsolete. Where everything I try to say has lost respect and voice. As if I momentarily looked crazy.

 I ended up being sucked in by stronger ones, and today I can barely hear my own thoughts and get my own opinions without being criticized or ridiculed. In fact, I can’t express myself verbally anymore. I am interrupted in a constant struggle for “power of speech”.

I decided to write about it because I see this as an alert for those who get tired and think about stopping. Today I am in a state of physical and mental rehabilitation. My body needs to train, to do the small steps of growth and my mind needs to regain its ability to retain and develop knowledge and wisdom.

Never let your life get to that point.

This space, “Brittle Choice” is part of this process of rebuilding and improving each day.


Expanding your Choices. Expanding your Decisions.

“Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.”Anthony Robbins

Apparently, the words ‘choose‘ and ‘decide‘ are synonymous. However, for me, they have very different actions and meanings. I’ll show you better.

Many choices we make in the course of our lives may or may not be conscious. Some are even instinctive, yet they are choices.

When we make decisions, it is closed, it’s a final point. It’s a conscious’ attitude.

When making a decision requires us to think better because once we decide, it is unlikely to go back.

Why did I decide to choose this topic today?

First, for the last months, a large part of the world’s population is in their homes, quarantined because of COVID – 19.

How many of us are not satisfied with the isolation measures imposed by the government?

In this case, the decision was imposed; it is not a choice. But the action in choosing to obey or not with the measures and rules is still ours. Everything will depend on your final decision.

Are you usually a person who likes to make decisions or prefer to make choices?

I see that making a choice is more flexible, where I may or may not go back. The decision is like when we make a promise to someone. Hardly you will change your mind.

How many important decisions do you remember making in your life?

Did any of them have an important effect on you?

Share with us, if it’s possible….

Keep safe!

So many things to …

Is intuitive action a choice?

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

Have you regret of anything during your life? Maybe you could say ‘no’, but we are here to speak openly and sincerely.

It happens all the time, even when you are driving and get the wrong street. So, of course, you have things that you regret. The traffic got you stuck in it and because of it, you got late at work… Well, there are so many reasons.
But how about the moment that made you divert? The tiny minute you really believe that your action will provide you with a better and faster way to reach your job. How many opportunities you really believed that you were doing the best choice and everything went wrong?

Don’t you agree that this could be the reason that many people procrastinate?
The fear of coming out from the comfort zone. It happened to me, of course. Everything was convenient at some particular moment and I wished the things could keep in the same way. But the choices always pop-up and request immediate action. Then, you do whatever you have to do with the feeling that you had no choice.

So, have you regret of any choice that you made?